About Wanting Validation

What Are Humans Wired To Want?

I've been getting a number of calls from my old friend GMS from my AFTRS days. GMS had a weird brain buzz moment and wanted to share it. His insight about humanity, was that humans are all irrational beings that want to experience their emotionality and what gets the humans off is the sense of validation they get. And so according to GMS, humans say they want love but what they really want is the validation they feel from being loved. It's a weirdly Gestalt Psychology sort of observation that we're all players in our own life dramas, and we say we want X but in reality we want the feeling of validation. Essentially we cannot cease to project our emotional needs on to the world at our core, we're all craving for the feeling of validation.

Of course, as GMS tells it, we're all bunch of bunch of emotional babies. Carl Jung argued we were working toward self-actualisation but GMS calls hogwash on that notion. In GMS's view, we just want to feel validated. The reason religion never goes away in spite of its failings is because the one thing it can offer is this feeling of validation to everybody. And so religious people are on average a lot happier about their lot in life because they're likely walking around with more of this validation from their religious source. In a sense those people are happier not being self-actualised "as long as they gets their validations from God."

GMS is acerbic about humanity. Maybe he's downright misanthropic. In his view people are running around trying to collect on this feeling of validation when in reality there is no validation, they are undeserving of any validation and the whole thing is a cosmic joke because the reason they're doing it is because they're hard wired to do it thanks to evolution. Maybe there's something to all of this. I told him if Woody Allen were around, he'd probably say he didn't need any such validation - he'd probably just want his car parking to be validated. 

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